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:: Finding the right person? ::

Posted on 31-08-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Inspired

The key to succeeding in marriage (or relationship) is not about finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

Sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t ‘find’ LASTING love. You have to ‘make’ it day in and day out. That’s why we have the expression ‘the labor of love.’ Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner) to succeed with your marriage/relationship.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable… you can ‘make’ love.

Love in marriage is indeed a ‘decision’… Not just a feeling.

Remember always this:
‘God determines who walks into your life.It is up to you to decide who you let to walk away,who you let to stay, and who you refuse to let go.’

:: Happy Birthday to me! ::

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Posted on 22-08-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : blessings

I am narcissistic, and in case I were to forget my own birthday, I set reminders on my devices to remind myself. Heh!

I don’t think there’ll be many this year, cuz I only carry my BB and Nokia these days. Fond memories are best etched in my head and heart.

Thank you everyone for your wishes, I’m so very blessed. I’m blessed because I have all of you.

I’m hoping to have my next big bash at my own bachelorette’s pad. So save your ang pows for my wedding and divert them into my bachelorette’s pad fund please… :D

Thank you Daddy & Mommy, for all these years of up-bringing and love, I’ll probably be struggling in a whirlpool if not for all you’ve done for me.

And most definitely Thank YOU, my beloved Daddy God.  Thank you for loving a flawed person like me, unconditionally. Thank you for your grace, everything that I don’t deserve, but you gave still. Thank YOU!

:: Druggie, Trafficker turned Pastor ::

Posted on 19-08-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Inspired

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If you don’t know already, this is Jaeson Ma, a Pastor based in LA.

I’ve been following him on Twitter for a while already, and moved by his love for God and his love for people.  Especially his 365 Days of Love project.

Notable quotes from his interview with Taiwan’s GoodTV:

“Justice is getting what you deserve. Mercy is getting what you don’t deserve. Grace is getting what you definitely don’t deserve.”

“God is romantic.”

Jaeson Ma’s testimony touched many, and I’ve just been touched again after watching this video.  Hope you like it too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r5rNppShHGk

:: Refreshed ::

Posted on 18-08-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Musings

Old Theme, you have served me well...

I’ve been doing quite a fair bit of site revamps, refreshes, etc… So it’s gotten to me with my own, so here. What do you think?

Along with this, I’ve also changed my Twitter design too. Have lookie.

I’m feeling lukewarm about the weekend. Hmmm…. I warm up slowly I guess…

:: אדיב ::

Posted on 24-07-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Emo, Inspired

Be gracious – something I lack.

I’m a highly-jealous creature, I can be uber bitchy, I speak viciously when it’s triggered.

What’s passed is past, but some things still sting.

A fellow Leo told me, it’s just being ourselves, a Leo character.

But I believe innate character can be altered through nurturing.

Little by little, one step at a time

He’s changing our hearts and renewing our minds

Teaching us how to be patient and kind

Little by little, one step at a time

:: My latest obsession ::

Posted on 23-07-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Inspired, blessings

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Everything Chinese! Yes!  You heard it right.

I’m READING  a Chinese book, LISTENING to Chinese songs, and SEARCHING for Chinese videos . Ha!

MissYappie found this book for me on her last biz trip to Hong Kong.  This is not her album, but Sammi Cheng’s testimony of her journey to discover the Grace, that has helped her recover from depression without any medical consultation/aid.

I got the book in early May, I’ve barely read anything then, only flipped through the pictorial pages. Reading in Chinese is quite a challenge, especially when this book is written in Cantonese Traditional Chinese.  It’s been good so far… I’m reading it slowly and learnt to get the meaning of words from context.

Amazing things are happening in the entertainment scene these days! I notice more and more Christian artistes out there, and use their talent to share the Love.

Anyone keen to borrow the book from me, let me know, I’m more than happy to pass it around ;) Oh and her Cantonese Gospel album, Faith, too.

Thanks to BearyJean I had the opportunity of experiencing a Chinese praise & worship, not just any regular praise & worship, but an electrifying, inspiring, soul-filling one!  Stream of Praise (赞美之泉), was here on their Asian Tour at Bethesda Cathedral.

It’s a truly refreshing experience!  It was fun learning some keywords in Chinese, especially the Chinese for Jehovah, 耶和华, was initially a tongue-twister for me.

It’s the beginning of many more Chinese worship & praise to come, I’m beginning to appreciate Chinese songs.

My current favourites are 我们爱(让世界不一样) [We Will Love (We Will Make A Difference)] and 沙漠中的赞美 [Praise In The Desert].

:: A question many question ::

Posted on 14-07-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Emo

I was asked this again this week.  It’s a question that I have no answer to.

“How come you’re still single?”

If being single for a year is enough to make some go, “Hwah! One year no bf, can tahan meh?”, then the person will flip and slip if I said it has been exactly 5 years for me.

On one hand, this window has allowed me to catch up with a big part of my life – my family.  Especially with this work arrangement, I could see to a lot more matters at home, or help out here and there, love my mum more, hang out with my niece.  And most definitely, define myself as an individual.

On the other hand, I’ve gotten too comfortable with myself, with my family and friends, I don’t make anymore effort to meet new people.  Instead of going out, I’m spending more time at home, which is a good thing nevertheless.

Often, I tell myself, I rather be single than to be in one of those ambiguous/pure lust relationship.  Been there, done that in fact.

The most fruitful relationship I have to date is probably this with Him.  I trust that He wants me to have a partner, someone whom I can have a fruitful relationship with. :)

Ok back to the question.  So what do you think is lacking in me for this void?  I strongly think it’s my consistent inconsistency.  What do you say?

:: A day in the life of a mommy ::

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Posted on 08-06-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Kaley, blessings

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Is not easy at all…
The BabysitterMy nephew decided to pop ahead of time, and caught all of us off-guard!  Sis checked-in at the hospital at 6am this morning, and by 8ish baby Mikel has arrived in a healthy 2.74kg bundle.

My BIL was accompanying my sis, mom’s already at work, so I was mobilised to babysit my niece this morning.  Thank God for the flexible work arrangement!

What I did today…

  • 10.45am: Picked Kaley up to send her to school 3 bus stops away from her place
  • 11am – 1pm: Did some work at the void deck of the school while waiting for her
  • 1.15pm: Lunch at TBP McD’s with my bro
  • 2.15pm: Reached the hospital with the intention of visiting baby Mikel and sis, however prematurely shortened cuz Kaley doesn’t like hospitals. She wailed all the way till she threw up all that she ate at McD’s. Had to deal with all the stuff she threw up…
  • 3pm: Got home and need to put her for a nap.  She agreed to play only 5 games on Wii then sleep. Good.
  • 3.45pm – 5.45pm: Napped with her
  • 6pm: Prepare dinner while ensuring she’s not out of sight.  Had to involve her in the preparation process so she doesn’t run around and disappear out of my sight
  • 6.45pm: Fed her dinner and finished mine only after her
  • 7pm: Took her out for a walk in the park
  • 8pm: Went out to supermarket to do some grocery shopping (honey baked ham, sausage, cheese and bread + 2 pints of B&J ice-creams!)
  • 9pm: Got home and fix her a little supper and brush teeth before bed
  • 9.30pm – 12.30pm: Putting her to sleep… Her 1st time sleeping over our place… Thankfully she didn’t look for her mommy…

Finally some me-time now that she’s in bed… I trust that she’ll sleep through the night…

This is just a taste-test of full-time motherhood I guess… I’m just tending to her, no need for household chores and make sure my hubby is taken care of… Kudos to her, my mommy and all mothers! It’s tougher than most work anytime! At least you get lunch breaks and colleagues to chit chat with at work… At home, everything revolves around the child and the household…

Three (thousand) cheers to mommies!!

:: A joyful addition to the family ::

Posted on 07-06-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : Mikel, blessings

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My nephew, like my niece can’t wait to see us, and arrive ahead of their EDD (estimated delivery date), 3 weeks earlier in fact.

He’s a healthy 2.74kg, I don’t know the exact stats yet… I’m tasked to babysit my niece these 2 days while everyone sorts out the logistics…

Can’t wait to go see baby Mikel, the second born to my sister and brother-in-law, Kaley’s baby brother and definitely God’s gift!

Thank God for loving us! Hallelujah!!

:: MAYbe baby… ::

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Posted on 31-05-2010 | By: saffyz

Category : blessings

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May saw the weddings of 2 very dear girlfriends, – Miss Purrfectz and Serenely; 2 weeks apart, respectively 15th and 30th.

Other than being May brides, here are some similarities between the 2 of them…

  • Both are equally dear to me; not just sistas, but also sisters-in-Christ
  • Both are not only wonderful friends, but generous to me in every way
  • Both have expensive taste; they own the same Chanel purse
  • Both have hidden talent; one paints and the other is achieved-sportsperson
  • Both weddings are planned within 6 months, from venue to gowns to photography
  • Both were moved to tears with their girlfriend’s speech
  • Both had really good wedding planners; both FOC
  • Both husbands are not the likely guys whom we thought they’ll date in the first place, more so marry
  • Both husbands are man of principles and man of habits
  • Both are capable wives who takes good care of their men and will be loving mothers

I started out this list with little in mind, but ended up a list of 10!

They are both over-achievers in their own way, yet they so generously share… I’m thankful for having known them, and they are blessings to me.

I’m looking forward to their firstborns, and it will be AWESOMEST if they share the same birthday!  Like my 2 schoolmates, their second-born share the same birthday…

I LOVE YOU BABES!!

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